The Toilet Seat

Sex- whenever you hear this word how is the feeling? Awkward? Not able to say it in public freely? A single word that will completely change others' perception of you (negatively). Isn't it? Have you ever thought why it is so? When people consider marriage and children as sacred and celebrate, why are they so obsessed on speaking about sex? This book, “The Toilet Seat" by Latha will address all your misconception about sex and gender domination.

Food, Clothes, and Shelter are considered the necessity for human life. The author includes Food, Sex, Clothes, and Shelter as the basic needs (in the same order). Sex has been one of the common processes throughout human evolution. But nowadays, people put a valley around it and put it in the darkroom. This is where the problem originates and leads to many social evils.

This book addresses the grey areas in relationships, and how the so-called ‘values’ blind people and create myths about love, marriage, and sex. The author also explains how Indian parents treat their boy and girl children differently.  In most Indian families, the boys are dressed up casually in jeans, shorts, and T-shirts. “You look like a prince to me, no matter what you wear,” is the general compliment from mothers and fathers. Whereas, a lot of effort is taken to dress up girls. Girls are dressed up in traditional clothes, fancy bindis, lowers and accessories, and made to feel like princesses. The daughter of the family is told that her Prince Charming would appear one fine day and take her away once she grows up to be a beautiful woman. This may seem to be a very casual act for parents and onlookers. However, deep down, we are planting a seed in the mind of the young girl that she should always dress up well enough to attract the attention of others. She is unconsciously told that unless she dresses up well she is not beautiful. Thus, the girl does not feel confident in herself without the external beautifying elements. This is how we bring her up. As the girl steps into adolescence, her focus is only on beautifying herself, without which she does not feel confident about herself.

She adds up how marriages are bound with blind beliefs and explain how one can overcome the same. For a happy and peaceful marriage life, both male and female partners should share their desires and speak up openly when it comes to the context of sex. We are humans and it's everyone's responsibility to respect each other's feelings. Possessiveness in the name of love should be completely avoided. Everyone is unique and each one has their own expectations. One must give freedom and space to their partner. Love is not just trusting each other, it's above trust.

This book has millions of messages. Each sentence has an in-depth meaning. It clearly explains how society made one gender dominant and how the other sufferers!

To be read and understood by everyone! Happy Reading!